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Different Paths to Belonging
When being authentic feels risky.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 21, 20254 min read


The Compliment Gap
Avoiding compliments or chasing them are both coping strategies for insecurity.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 14, 20254 min read


Your greatest enemy is the one living in your head
Hello darkness, my old friend...

Vanessa Gillier
May 25, 20253 min read


Pious Posers
Your hypocrisy betrays you.

Vanessa Gillier
Mar 2, 20254 min read


Imposter syndrome
Maladaptive coping skill - confirmation bias.

Vanessa Gillier
Feb 16, 20254 min read


High self-confidence, low self-esteem
Is my self-esteem showing?

Vanessa Gillier
Jan 26, 20254 min read


Practice makes permanent
You become what you repeatedly do.

Vanessa Gillier
Jan 12, 20253 min read


Procrastination - opportunity's natural assassin
Time keeps on slipping....

Vanessa Gillier
Dec 8, 20244 min read


Glow through what you Grow through
Like our ears and noses, never stop growing, so you can hear the truth and smell the roses, better.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 29, 20243 min read


Cognitive Distortions – our temperament traps
Don't believe everything you think.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 22, 20246 min read


Blind Spots – the mote behind our eyes
What others can see, but we can’t.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 8, 20244 min read


Core Beliefs – the lens of our lives
We see the world, not as it is, but as we are.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 1, 20246 min read


Maladaptation – good cope, bad cope
Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way we cope with it, is what makes the difference.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 18, 20247 min read
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