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Lessons From the Other Side of Rock Bottom
I used to think rock bottom was the end. Now I finally understand that it was a doorway.

Vanessa Gillier
3 days ago3 min read


A Foreigner in My Own Life
Recovery changes you—but no one talks about how strange it feels to meet yourself on the other side.

Vanessa Gillier
Dec 73 min read


The Gentle Art of Beginning Again
Starting anew not because you were broken, but because you are whole.

Vanessa Gillier
Nov 303 min read


You’re Not Broken Anymore - But You’re Not the Same Either
Recovery, whether from mental illness, addiction, trauma, grief, or burnout is rarely a reset button.

Vanessa Gillier
Nov 232 min read


Outgrowing Recovery as an Identity
Recovery once gave me structure and identity. But what happens when healing isn’t the whole story anymore?

Vanessa Gillier
Nov 164 min read


This is Not a Breakthrough Post
I’m here. Not thriving. Not crashing. Just… living. Staying. Becoming.

Vanessa Gillier
Nov 94 min read


Breaking Mending Becoming
Turning this blog into a book about my journey.

Vanessa Gillier
Nov 62 min read


From Client to Co-Pilot
The way you engage with therapy can evolve.

Vanessa Gillier
Nov 23 min read


When You’ve Outgrown Your Therapist
Ending a therapeutic relationship can feel weighty—but it’s also a powerful sign of self-awareness.

Vanessa Gillier
Oct 262 min read


Suffering Isn’t a Requirement for Growth
You don’t have to drink the whole ocean to know that it’s salty.

Vanessa Gillier
Oct 193 min read


Tropical Mental Health Hacks
Living in paradise while trying to hold together your mental health is kinda like trying to meditate on a trampoline: theoretically possible, but wildly unstable.

Vanessa Gillier
Oct 123 min read


Shame
Shame doesn’t just weigh us down - it drives us to hide, to numb, and to believe we’re beyond help.

Vanessa Gillier
Oct 53 min read


She Knew: A Womans Intuition and the Cost of Not Listening
The ancestral instinct and strength of emotional intelligence.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 284 min read


Different Paths to Belonging
When being authentic feels risky.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 214 min read


The Compliment Gap
Avoiding compliments or chasing them are both coping strategies for insecurity.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 144 min read


Things No One Tells You About Living in “Paradise”
Paradise can sometimes feel like a free vacation - tempting, but definitely not hassle-free.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 73 min read


Villain vs Victim
There’s a special kind of madness that comes from being in love with someone who rewrites reality.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 314 min read


From Invincible to Invisible to Invaluable
You may have been broken, but you were never beyond repair.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 244 min read


Betrayal: The Break That Never Goes Away
Things are never quite the same after betrayal.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 175 min read


Starting the Conversation
Open and honest communication about mental health.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 105 min read
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