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Glow through what you Grow through
Like our ears and noses, never stop growing, so you can hear the truth and smell the roses, better.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 29, 20243 min read
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Cognitive Distortions – our temperament traps
Don't believe everything you think.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 22, 20246 min read
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Six Months of Smobriety
Smoking is a choice, quitting is a commitment

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 15, 20244 min read
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Blind Spots – the mote behind our eyes
What others can see, but we can’t.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 8, 20244 min read
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Core Beliefs – the lens of our lives
We see the world, not as it is, but as we are.

Vanessa Gillier
Sep 1, 20246 min read
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Oklahoma
My mouth says, ‘I’m ok.’ My fingers text, ‘I’m fine.’ My heart says, ‘I’m broken.’

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 28, 20243 min read
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Trauma Responses – you never know what the past will bring
It isn’t about what’s wrong with you, it’s about what happened to you.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 25, 20245 min read
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Maladaptation – good cope, bad cope
Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way we cope with it, is what makes the difference.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 18, 20247 min read
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Doppelgänger
My palindrome life.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 14, 20244 min read
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Personal Responsibility – life is what you make it
Personal responsibility is not a burden, it is freedom.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 11, 20245 min read
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The Cobra Effect – when the solution is worse than the problem
Addiction and Mental Illness are two heads of the same snake.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 4, 20244 min read
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Triggers – the spark before the flame
A trigger is the connection between the conscious mind and a buried painful memory.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 28, 20246 min read
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Confusion not Confucius
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward growth.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 24, 20242 min read
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Progress not Perfection
Pursuing excellence for a perfectly imperfect existence.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 21, 20244 min read
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The Giving Tree - 2.0 – setting healthy boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries benefits everyone.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 15, 20242 min read
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Inmate ZZ108
We knew your beauty for a moment, but hold your memory for a lifetime.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 13, 20241 min read
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Interpersonal Effectiveness (part 2) – Setting Boundaries
Communication now prevents conflicts later.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 7, 20244 min read
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Interpersonal Effectiveness – Self-respect
While we may be born communicators, we are not born with effective interpersonal skills. Those we need to learn.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 30, 20244 min read
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Distress Tolerance – Self-love
We are ever evolving. Evolution not revolution.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 23, 20243 min read
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Emotional Regulation – Self-care
Surf the waves, without drowning in the swell.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 15, 20244 min read
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