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Maladaptation – good cope, bad cope
Life is not the way it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way we cope with it, is what makes the difference.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 18, 20247 min read


Doppelgänger
My palindrome life.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 14, 20244 min read


Personal Responsibility – life is what you make it
Personal responsibility is not a burden, it is freedom.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 11, 20245 min read


The Cobra Effect – when the solution is worse than the problem
Addiction and Mental Illness are two heads of the same snake.

Vanessa Gillier
Aug 4, 20244 min read


Triggers – the spark before the flame
A trigger is the connection between the conscious mind and a buried painful memory.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 28, 20246 min read


Confusion not Confucius
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward growth.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 24, 20242 min read


Progress not Perfection
Pursuing excellence for a perfectly imperfect existence.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 21, 20244 min read


The Giving Tree - 2.0 – setting healthy boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries benefits everyone.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 15, 20242 min read


Inmate ZZ108
We knew your beauty for a moment, but hold your memory for a lifetime.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 13, 20241 min read


Interpersonal Effectiveness (part 2) – Setting Boundaries
Communication now prevents conflicts later.

Vanessa Gillier
Jul 7, 20244 min read


Interpersonal Effectiveness – Self-respect
While we may be born communicators, we are not born with effective interpersonal skills. Those we need to learn.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 30, 20244 min read


Distress Tolerance – Self-love
We are ever evolving. Evolution not revolution.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 23, 20243 min read


Emotional Regulation – Self-care
Surf the waves, without drowning in the swell.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 15, 20244 min read


Mindfulness – Self-awareness
The simple practice of conscious intention.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 8, 20243 min read


Two Wolves
A Cherokee lore about inner conflict.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 2, 20243 min read


Wabi-sabi – Beauty of the Imperfect
Acceptance and contemplation of imperfection, impermanence and incompleteness as fundamental truths.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 1, 20242 min read


Kintsugi – Journey from Brokenness to Healing
Have courage. Brokenness is the path to breakthrough.

Vanessa Gillier
Jun 1, 20242 min read
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